It seems like an obvious question following pregnancy, but it is not always easy to figure out what has gone on in the process. When speaking to moms, there is a common theme with most pregnancies; they are all unique. Each child holds a significant memory for the mom. She remembers every time she had to move to help the baby rest better in the belly. The unique cravings that the mom has never experienced before. The intense mood changes that seem to be directly related to the child's mood. The list goes on and on.
What does this mean? I feel that our expectations that pregnancy is just an everyday occurrence that happens to all mothers. They all experience the same feelings, and changes in the body are short-sighted. The differences are so profound that each pregnancy affects the mother in such an unpredictable way sometimes. Of course, some mothers have absolutely no problems, and everything goes smoothly and, after a few months, feel like they did before the pregnancy. Still, even they will have distinct memories of each difference in the pregnancies.
As a physical therapist that treats this population daily, I have developed an appreciation and compassion for the process of pregnancy. I feel that there is sometimes too much emphasis on the child and the mother’s lack of self-care. The mother has beautiful programming that seems to start even with just the thought of having a child that transforms her into a self-sacrificing caretaker of this little being even before creation. That is probably the most profound act in human nature. Most profound but happens a lot of times without the mother even being aware of the change.
This is an essential and wonderful realization because there would be havoc to bear children without that shift in the mother. Just the thought of having a child can make a mother forget all of the hardships she has experienced following the pregnancy.
SELF CARE is what is commonly lacking in this whole equation.
Simple questions to ask yourself:
Do you feel that your aches and pains are significant enough to manage or focus primarily on the child's well-being?
When your child is restless at night, do you allow the child to sort things out, or do you get up at any disturbance? When was your last full night of sleep?
When was the last time you took a moment to soak in a bath with no disturbances?
What are your hobbies? If you can’t think of any, then think of pre-kids or marriage. Do you make time for any of those activities?
Each of these questions can facilitate change for you in your life. They are not that far fetched or extreme goals. Every mother can obtain one of these topics at least once a week and eventually working up to every day if we are lucky! As a therapist, I help the mother achieve these goals and regain their life and identity amongst the chaos.
About the author,
Rajesh is a Physical Therapist who is passionate about health and wellness. He is interested in all aspects of general well being including fitness, nutrition, and mindfulness. He continues to learn and grow from the profession he loves.
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